Okay so I am not really single but seriously Kevin is gone, yet again, for a business trip. This makes 5 trips in 4 months. We joke around that I am a single working mother of three and that there should be some sort of government program for which I qualify. I am pretty sure Obama-Care had something in it that would help me out – right? No?
Anyway, so here I am again all dressed up in a suit running around gathering bottles for the baby, slinging my pump over my shoulder and giving the Nanny last minute instructions. As I fall into the car and begin my commute, I wonder….does everyone do this much before 8am? Did I remember to put on my bra?
I have enough “stay at home” mom friends to know that being home with the kids is no vacation either and that is has its’ own set of complications and stress. Namely, the inability to have an adult conversation for 8 straight hours and the carpel tunnel syndrome that develops from constant requests to open this or that snack package/toy etc. As a side note – can we please join together and speak wtih the toy manufacturer’s about the ridiculous amount of plastic and screws and tape and twisty wire-thingies involved in packaging? Seriously.
So my assumption is simply that being a mom to multiple children is just hard work, whether you are with them all day or not. At the end of any given day, especially without a husband around to share the burden (I mean joy) of dinner time/playtime/bathtime/storytime, I am just spent. Useless. Emotionally and physically drained.
As such, I have been feeling like my children don’t get my best when I come home from work. With Kevin being gone and work being so draining, my kids sometimes get the scraps. I have been asking God to show me how to be the best mom I can be with the little time I have. I don’t want to have my children look back on these years and just see me as the blur in heels (albeit very cute heels) that barked “get dressed! we have to leave NOW!” But how do I accomplish this when I really do need them to get dressed because we really do have to leave NOW???
I feel like I am being called to spend more time playing with my kids. Due to the fact that I have boys, it is easier for me to cop out and say – “Mommy doesn’t know how to transform that Transformer, go ask Daddy to help.” Yet, I know that I need to find ways to connect with them that is fun, even when my day is long. So ladies, I have a question….do you (whether you work outside the home or not) take time to play with your kids? Do you engage in their world for a time each day? If so, what do you do? Especially for my boy mama friends – help me out. I can play Barbie till the cows come home but when it comes to Batman, my creative juices just aren’t flowing.
Alright, I am off to start my day. Seven cups of coffee later and a little help from Beyonce (put your hands up! oh-oh-oh) I finally have the energy…..Read More